Deep, I hear you, but maybe Aretha can explain it better. What this forum needs is more RESPECT.
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Seriously, everybody, if you want to talk with more women on this forum, you have to act more like the decent people I know you all are, ALL THE TIME.
As it is, the question isn't "how to bring in more women", it's
"How can we stop losing the female members we used to have?" For example, Rachelizée and Cinnamon Pixie! They were great, but I don't think either of them are ever coming back here again. Why don't you all wonder about that for a while?
If we want more female members here (which I don't really believe), the tone of a couple things would have to change. I don't actually expect these things
will change, but (fwiw) here's the input of a guy who's married for 22 years and raising a couple daughters:
My Initial "Suggestions":
a) The "I Love Women" thread has gotten kinda gross. Funny sometimes, yes, but it also smells a lot like a high school locker room. If we really want more women fans to feel more welcome here, you can't have threads that are insulting, degrading, or objectifying women. Sorry!
b) When you meet a girl in person, it's not considered respectful to ask "are those real?" Same applies online.
c) Hate to say this (and sincerely I do), but
Plaz's avatar would have to wear a figleaf or something. I think Ruroshen had said it was pushing the limits, but we were letting it go for now. That's all fine with me, but if you're all wondering why women are being scared away, that actually might have something to do with it.
That's all. I don't really expect any of these "suggestions" to be followed. And I'm personally not a prude or a conservative type who thinks these things SHOULD be made part of our policy. I think I'm just answering the question "where have all the ladies gone". As things are, the ladies I know would never want to join this place, and those are the main reasons why.