Alizée has driven me to the point of madness

[Deepwaters]

Originally Posted by Rictor

But as soon as I started to get to know these women, I felt more alone than ever. The women I've met in New York are so similar in character and personality traits that I might as well have been dating the same woman over and over again.

Hmm, well, seems to me you've got two separate questions here, the Alizée spell question and the women-in-your-life question. They're not really related, because of course the prospects of dating Mlle. Jacotey are not encouraging. (Sorry.)

Are you sure you'd even want to? How similar are you to Jérémy Chatelain -- the one dude we know for certain she's gone for? You described him once as an "emo pansy," but I wasn't sure if you were serious or not. If you were, then Alizée is the kind of woman who goes for men you look down on as emo pansies which means you probably wouldn't be interested once you got to know her. And if that's true, then it can be kind of empowering to realize that and, in your mind, politely tell her thanks for the compliment but it would never work out and it would be best to just be a friend and fan.

As far as meeting women is concerned, maybe the key is to find women that share interests you have, so you know you have something in common at least. And you can also screen the prospects for whatever it is you haven't liked about New York ladies.

Her Grace does cast a spell. (I think she literally does, but we won't go there.) It can be a nice thing but a little risky if you let it steer you somewhere you don't want to go. Think of it as like surfing and she's the wave. Got to keep your balance.

[Rictor]

Originally Posted by Deepwaters

Hmm, well, seems to me you've got two separate questions here, the Alizée spell question and the women-in-your-life question. They're not really related, because of course the prospects of dating Mlle. Jacotey are not encouraging. (Sorry.)

Are you sure you'd even want to? How similar are you to Jérémy Chatelain -- the one dude we know for certain she's gone for? You described him once as an "emo pansy," but I wasn't sure if you were serious or not. If you were, then Alizée is the kind of woman who goes for men you look down on as emo pansies which means you probably wouldn't be interested once you got to know her. And if that's true, then it can be kind of empowering to realize that and, in your mind, politely tell her thanks for the compliment but it would never work out and it would be best to just be a friend and fan.

As far as meeting women is concerned, maybe the key is to find women that share interests you have, so you know you have something in common at least. And you can also screen the prospects for whatever it is you haven't liked about New York ladies.

Her Grace does cast a spell. (I think she literally does, but we won't go there.) It can be a nice thing but a little risky if you let it steer you somewhere you don't want to go. Think of it as like surfing and she's the wave. Got to keep your balance.

You never know for sure what kind of guy a girl who go for. The secret is that they DON'T really have a "type." Case in point, I had a female friend who swore that she only dated really skinny guys who dressed a certain way, was shy, etc. So guess what happened when I introduced her to my best friend - a tall, hot, muscular, smart, well endowed guy? She became nuts about him, almost on a biological level.

You're right about finding women who share my interests as a better bet for finding someone I'll like. But that's where I have the most trouble in because many of my interests are contradictory. I can't really say more without getting personal, so let's just leave it at that.

Originally Posted by Deepwaters

...Alizée is the kind of woman who goes for men you look down on as emo pansies which means you probably wouldn't be interested once you got to know her.

False. If you truly love someone, you can forgive them of anything and you really wouldn't care what they're into or not into. Think about how many compromises married couples make to make the relationship work.

Your responses to what I say are very predictable and unoriginal. I can't believe that you would think I haven't explored these areas already.

Edit:

Also, I don't believe that two people need to be equals in order for them to be in a relationship. It's more about how much they care about each other, how strong their connection is, etc. There only needs to be a modicum of common ground, but I honesty doubt that Alizée would be attracted to every single guy who looks or dresses somewhat like Jeremy. That's like saying I would like every brunette who has Alizée's hairstyle. It's never that simple. I'm sure in spite of his emo-ness, Jeremy probably has OTHER indefinable characteristics about him that she's attracted to.