guys who like Alizée and her work are gay?

[Minno]

I can see how someone could arrive at the conclusion that all male alizee fans are gay. On most fan sites (including this one) if a male says "wow Alizee is hot" or something of that nature, they are immediately yelled at by all the "true" fans for being pervs, sexist blah blah blah. So, the only guys that you hear/see talking about Alizee are the gay guys.

[OGRE]

Originally Posted by garçoncanadien

the one thing that repeated over and over again is "be genuinely interested in other people".

most of my classmates are women this semester because of coincidence, and i am fall off my chair stunned by how well they do this even though i know for a fact they don't care less

right now i can't do this to save my life.

Alizée.

Don't sweat it garçoncanadien. This comes natural to some people, while it is hell for others. I'm an introverted technical nerd. My wife is an extroverted people person. I handle the technical stuff. She handles the relationship stuff. Over the years I've become better, to include some training and what not, but it's hard. How can you be "genuinely interested" if you're NOT INTERESTED? Otherwise it's just FAKE interested, which is worse in my opinion.

Be yourself.
Be considerate of others.
Learn to Listen. ACTIVELY

In fact,that last bit is possibly the best advice. People like to talk. They like to have good listeners. If you can become a good active listener, you will be surprised how many people see you as "interested" in them. I've known this for twenty years, and it's still a struggle for me. Sigh.

[garçoncanadien]

i can do all three very well - but i can't get involved in other people's conversations which i think is hurting me. mostly because i am unfamiliar with their subject matter (sports, recent movies, etc.) what to do?

[SupaKrupa]

Originally Posted by garçoncanadien

I guessed that if I want to get to know my classmates beyond a superficial friendship, I need to go out and have fun their way or at least go to parties with them to know them more.

Heh, it's sad that you feel YOU have to get to know them better...

Originally Posted by Minno

I can see how someone could arrive at the conclusion that all male alizee fans are gay. On most fan sites (including this one) if a male says "wow Alizee is hot" or something of that nature, they are immediately yelled at by all the "true" fans for being pervs, sexist blah blah blah. So, the only guys that you hear/see talking about Alizee are the gay guys.

If one is gay for being able to recognise something that is talented and beautiful, inside and out, then so be it. It's all a matter of perspective...

[atra201]

who ever thinks that loving Alizee is gay , is so wrong.

[RadioactiveMan]

People also think that grabbing a dude's crotch is gay. The world isn't fair.

[Drake498]

Originally Posted by garçoncanadien

thank you both - rwd716 and SupaKrupa.

I was never interested in these things. I guessed that if I want to get to know my classmates beyond a superficial friendship, I need to go out and have fun their way or at least go to parties with them to know them more. However I've told you many many of my classmates go to parties to drink a lot of beer and watch sports on TV. I have never been interested in these things my whole life. now what should I do rwd716?

yeah i know i'm not rwd716

But i'd say just be true to yourself. The majority of my 'friends' at school are only on a superficial level, and at first I hated it and wanted more, but as I've become older it's become increasingly all right to have just a couple honestly TRUE friends. I wanna be myself, i dont wanna change me to just be cool or friends with someone else, granted there's minimal give and take about how to act differently accordingly, but for the most part, live your life how you would any day, being yourself and being happy in it. When you're yourself, you tend to shine and show other happyness and will attract more genuine friends that share likes or dislikes.

[atra201]

Originally Posted by RadioactiveMan

People also think that grabbing a dude's crotch is gay. The world isn't fair.

well depends on why would you grabb it.

[Drake498]

Originally Posted by RadioactiveMan

People also think that grabbing a dude's crotch is gay. The world isn't fair.

well are you saying reaching for it or actually grabbing the package there, cuz some kids at my skool will reach for it and if you dont pull away they'll attempt to grab. i'm not even kidding! A couple times they've reached for mine and i knocked his hand away and was like "get the hell out of here" lol (kinda laughing at the same time to keep it from getting hostile), but like, what the hell do you make of that? i know for a fact that they're all virgins, so does that have anything to do about it? idk its just wierd, and gay...

[garçoncanadien]

ah srrry i meant to say thank you Drake498 as well