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[HibyPrime]

Originally Posted by Snatcher42

I didn't say that, Hilby. They're reasons not not to get married (excuse the double negative). Or, as I said, there are no reasons not to marry if you're seriously committed anyway. They're no downsides (if you're worried about divorce, sign a pre-nup), but there are benefits.

There is a huge downside, a very very very large one for some people.

You are conforming to society.

[Ben]

Originally Posted by HibyPrime

There is a huge downside, a very very very large one for some people.

You are conforming to society.

And if you allow that to be the reason, then your the biggest conformist of all.

[HibyPrime]

Originally Posted by Snatcher42

And if you allow that to be the reason, then your the biggest conformist of all.

There is a difference between a non-conformist and someone who does not conform to society. I'm talking about someone who does not want to conform to society.

[Ben]

Yeah, but they still aren't really thinking for themselves, because they have that one over-arching idea for everything. Practically speaking,it's a reason against marriage they've invented for themselves, not something inherent in it.

[HibyPrime]

If they have made a truthfully neutral idea a reason for them to never get married, then are they not thinking for themselves?

[bt_bird_90]

Originally Posted by HibyPrime

There is a difference between a non-conformist and someone who does not conform to society. I'm talking about someone who does not want to conform to society.

[HibyPrime]

Originally Posted by bt_bird_90

Lol... He is just conforming in his attempt at non-conformity! Get a segway or something..

let me update my recent statement to cater to the image:

There is a difference between non-conformists, someone who does not conform to society, and emo people. I'm talking about someone who does not want to conform to society.

[Ben]

Originally Posted by HibyPrime

If they have made a truthfully neutral idea a reason for them to never get married, then are they not thinking for themselves?

Well it depends if they specifically considered marriage when deciding not to conform (though if so, what could the reasoning be?), or if they just thought for themselves the one time and then never consider things as they come up again. In other words, not wanting to conform to society is too broad of reason, imo. You could use it (and granted, people do) as an excuse not to do a lot of very sensible things.

[RMJ]

alrighty ! Le'ts marry then!

I still see no reason for it but heck.. let's do it !

If it can be done online... I don't wanna walk to registrar for it... so much trouble.

[Ben]

Heh, I see your all not getting the significance of these legal rights. But they do really effect your everyday life. At least in the US. I don't know about elsewhere, but given that here marriage comes with well over a thousand (literally) legal benefits, I can't imagine there are none in other countries.

Obviously, these practical benefits aren't reason alone to marry. But if you are already emotionally committed, they are something any responsible person will appreciate. Especially if you ever plan on raising a family, I think turning then down is selfish and irresponsible.

Here's just one example. Everyone in my family wears glasses. My father gets eye-care insurance through his employment. If he and my mother weren't married, that insurance wouldn't cover all of us. But because they are, we all get free yearly eye exams and glasses.